Feb 23
Its been nearly 3 weeks since we had gone out together, Sunday is the only day where I’m free for the entire day and this time I informed Vanitha that we should go out – preferably in the morning as usually she feels sick in the eve.
I wanted her to come out, do some walking, catch some breath, meet few people, more than 3 weeks at home will make anyone sick. The morning gradually was postponed to Noon as she had Back Ache and was not feeling very good about it and again from Noon went to eve.
I was not very sure if this was the right time to go, we had planned to visit my friend and also buy some provisions while coming back. On our way we learnt that my friend and their parents are not at home ( I had told Vanitha to call and confirm ) and then her nausea started, I went to provision store and in-between I recd a call from Vanitha that she was vomiting.
It was bad, everything she had had come out and was feeling extremely sick. She felt week and helpless.
I Felt very sorry for her and was feeling guilty as well, It was me who forced her to come out and meet some friends & family. I wanted her to meet people, coz in last 3 weeks she had not seen any new faces and everyone so busy in their work did not expect many to visit her at our home also.
She was feeling miserable all night and did not have dinner also, she just had a glass of milk and went to bed. I was feeling a lil ashamed, I could have avoided all this If I choose not to go out…
Nausea can be very disruptive, sudden and occur in embarrassing situations. And for sure it is always highly uncomfortable. Anyone who has suffered from nausea knows that it is not always possible to get out of the situation or treat yourself with medication. And many times you need relief faster than that provided by the medical remedies.
Being a pregnant woman myself, I would hate it if my husband compelled me to do somehing that I wouldn’t like to do….whatever maybe the reasons. You are not the pregnant one, you don’t know what it feels to be pregnant. You need to let her decide when she wants to go out or do whatever else you may want to do.
I like your blog. I think it’s a wonderful account of an indian husband’s journey towards parenthood.
@ Pregnant Woman,
Could not have agreed with you more, only she can understand what she goes through. Actually Vanitha also wanted to come out but eve was a bad choice.
However from past couple of days we go for walking after dinner around our Apartments and then we sit at the Children;s play area and chat for sometime, both of us like this new schedule, keeps her active with some exercise and also spend some time with her in open air.